MEN’S WAYS…

 

The incident clearly shows that WOMAN MATTER is not necessarily enough to tear two men (that are bent on being close friends) apart…She was actually dating one of the two men (initially)-who shares a duplex with another friend of his (that has just relocated from Europe).Very easy going man, she probably found him boring-compared to the ‘lively fine boy’ that is the returnee from Europ...e. Shortly after she met the second guy-she started flirting with him.Infact, the ‘attraction’ was mutual…to the extent that she called the guy she was supposed to be dating- to tell him that she is actually in love with his friend and would want his blessing to move on. The guy gave her a long look, shrugged his shoulders and wished her well-as he walked away.
Her subsequent visits were to the other guy’s side of the building. A few weeks after LAYING HER THOROUGHLY, the ‘Yankee returnee’ sat her down to tell her that they have to stop seeing each other because HIS WIFE and kids were moving back to the country. She could not believe what she heard, she cursed him out for leading her on(failing to tell her that he was married) and marched to the other guy(whom she jilted for the ‘yankee returnee’) ,demanding to know why he also failed to warn her that she was falling into the hands of a man that’s already TAKEN. He gave her wicked grin, shrugged his shoulders and asked her to close his door –as she leaves his room… Just before she got to the door, he told her that he actually knew about her STOLEN SHOWS with his friend-long before she confessed to her feelings for his friend. He went on to explain that the first day she started flirting with his friend(the Yankee returnee),that his friend told him and it was actually him that encouraged his friend to PLAY ALONG…so all that BONKING was his friend playing along. He did admit (however) that he actually wanted to have a serious relationship with her but she killed something in him the moment she started flirting outrageously with his friend (FINE BOY)-it was then that he swore that he will rather lose his relationship with a lady, than lose a friend that he’s come a long way with (because of a woman -that he isn’t married to) …the two men are still VERY CLOSE till this day.
This is a story that a lady narrated to me recently, when she spoke to me about what she considers the worst mistake of her life, one that still makes her cringe with shame-despite the fact that the incident took place roughly ten years back.
As I mull over the story, I kept thinking to myself that men are indeed different from women in a lot of ways. They know when not to let WHAT DOES NOT MATTER come into their friendships. I can imagine the way ladies will tear themselves apart over a similar incident, a lady only needs to SUSPECT that you (even if you are best friends) are eyeing her man and all hell will be let loose-and the fact that she is fighting her best friend over a man that she isn’t even married to is immaterial. In her mind, she is fighting a HUSBAND SNATCHER…