HERE'S HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR DREADLOCK.

A lot of people always associate having dreadlocks with un-serious individuals or those who do not keep good hygiene. Why? This is mostly due to the fact that some of those that have dreadlocks do not know how to take care of it. Here are a few important things you should know when it comes to washing dreadlocks and check out some cool dreadlocks style inspirations...Thank me later

Start very early
When your dreadlocks are at the early stage, it is important to begin and maintain a washing culture. You could decide to wash your locks every 3 or 4 days and maintain that schedule for a while this would help your dreadlocks establish their individual patterns.After a month or two.

 Use residue free shampoo always
Always use residue free shampoo. This residue is sometimes left behind after washing your hair and could cause a bad build up on your locks or scalp. For dreadlocks, this problematic residue are those left behind by traditional soaps made from animal fats or vegetable sources like olive oil or coconut oils.

The residue build up could prevent the hair from locking properly which could make your dreads look poorly done or rough. It could also lead to dread rot which is the growth of mildew in the dread, leading to bad smell.

Spread out your shampoo to your dread growth
Dreadlocks go through different stages of maturity daily. Therefore it is important to pattern your shampoo to the current stage of your dreads. The type of shampoo your hair would require when it is at an early stage is different from when it has reached mid-length. Never forget that
 Get all the water out completely
After you have washed your dreadlocks, be sure to rinse them out properly. Dreadlocks consist of a lot of hair and you could become tired of continually rinsing them, but it is very important that you do so. Not rinsing your dreadlocks properly could lead to more build up on your scalp which could eventually lock more dirt and cause dread rot.

Instead, when you are done washing, continue pouring water on them until the rinsing water turns clean. After this squeeze the excess water out while in the shower or otherwise and place them in a lint free towel. When they have dried considerably, use a hand drier or standing hair drier to dry them of completely.

Moisturize & use Dread wax to hold in place
After washing, the dreadlocks may loosen as a result of the method of washing. To remedy this, after you have washed the locks and they are now dry, apply some dread wax in a twisting motion. This takes the loose strands of hair and locks them back in place. After you have waxed your hair, then use a dread cap to hold the dreadlocks in place while they wax.

CHECK OUT THIS FASHION MIX-UP....STYLISH..

Fashion like i always say is a mind thing.You dress how you want to be addressed. It doesnt have to cost a fortune! I like to play around with bright colours considering my complexion..
But shoes,scarfs,and bags does it most for me anytime, they are my favorite wardrobe collections.
 Below are some fashion trends I'd like to try out.

MARIA BORGES ANGOLAN MODEL:TOPS FORBES AFRICAN'S MAGAZINE LIST FOR AFRICAN MODELS

Congrats  to her...Go girl.. Check out her pictures below. Hot or Not...?

SHIRTDRESS FASHION TREND:WEAR IT EVERYWHERE AND ANYWHERE..

It can seem quite like a myth, the idea of a piece that works for almost any occasion. Most of us  are used to having several mini wardrobes in one like me hehe.There's what you wear to the office, to school, to meet friends and to meet dates. There's what you wear on casual occasions, semi-formal get-together s, and of course every girl needs solid beach style too. But what if there's a piece you've overlooked that can do, not just double, but triple and quadruple duty? I'm talking about the shirt-dress. See what I mean below.

                                                    

In so many iterations, you could even have just a few in your closet and create dozens of looks by changing out your accessories and shoes.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY

Never waste time trying to turn someone who hates you into someone who likes you.Instead focus on turning people who like your dream into people who love your dream.

TOP QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR STYLIST...BEFORE HE STARTS CUTTING YOUR HAIR

Getting a hair cut is usually a very intimidating situation for me and that's why i usually open up to my stylist with a story about an awful past experience.So i now use a question and answer approach ....hehe.. and it worked,so am hoping it will also work for you. 
To avoid any confusion (or disappointment) after the cut, it’s important to ask these questions before hand to create an understandable dialogue for both you and your stylist.

1. Where will the style fall?
When talking about the length of your hair, you want to ask where the perimeter will fall once it’s dry and styled. As your stylist, if we discuss taking two inches off of the length, it may seem like more once I have styled it.

2. Would i style it every day?
A lot of times, someone will come in and want a look that may actually take a lot of time to style depending on the individual’s hair. It's important to ask this question because many prefer a "wash and wear" cut that makes their morning routines easier. You should always choose a haircut that works best for your lifestyle.

3. Will I be able to pack it all back?
One common mistake is deciding to cut your hair so short that you aren't able to pull it back into a ponytail. When discussing a new cut with your stylist you should always mention if you want to be able to pull it back because that instantly rules out a lot of hot short style. 

4. How should i maintain it?
The fact is: some haircuts require more upkeep then others, so when you’re in the chair you want to ask how often you are going to have to return.It's important for your stylist to create a look for you that’s going to support itself for the amount of time you intend to rock your hair.

5. Should I wait?
When trying something new or switching stylists it’s best to be patient. In some situations, it's necessary to give your hair time to grow before changing the cut, thus giving your stylist a clean slate. Ask your stylist if the look you want is achievable with what you already have or if you should let it grow for a little while first.

CHOOSE YOUR FAV....

Check out ways you can rock that white outfit.. Enjoy

POWER OF MAKE-UP

This shot, which juxtaposes half a bare and half a made-up face, was posted by "Munner83" on Reddit.com several months ago. It has since gone viral, and people continue to share the picture digitally.

I've always taken issues with the assertion that women look fake when they wear makeup. To me, makeup allows women to be creative in expressing and exploring aspects of their personalities,and why not take joy in being able to accentuate your features with some shadow,powder and blush?

Yet in doing so, it's important to remind ourselves that the results aren't necessarily "better." The right side of the face in the photo shows a woman with great bone structure, glowing skin and kind eyes. She's lovely without the makeup, and is probably smiling because it only took her five minutes to get ready.

With that said, let's talk about that left side. Check out the lift of the arched brow, the sweep of the smoky cat eye, the radiant warmth of her blush and those divinely glossed lips. It's a look that could turn heads on the red carpet.

Some days, we want to be that get-up-and-go girl with fresh skin and easy going mien…. On other days, we want to be that all-out glamorous, stepping into a room with the grandeur of a silver-screen star.

The two sides of this face seem to symbolize that duality of women. We are always goddesses, beautiful by nature or by artifice. So why limit yourself to just one face?

What do you think of this photo?

UNFORGIVENESS: THE ANTI-SUCCESS AGENT...

Hello dear reader,  hope you're good today?
But before then please permit me to deviate a bit, unforgiveness is not good at all and like it or not we've all been affected one way or the other...Please feel free to drop in your suggestions *winks*

Recently I've seen a lot of people allow themselves to be controlled by accumulated anger and bitterness over time about situations that have either hurt them one way or the other.

 Unforgiveness is a subtle destructive weapon in life. It is important for you to always know that you will be offended in life. Whether you're as holy and gentle like an angel or wicked like the devil, offenses must come to you. The important thing here is not whether offenses will come, but what you do with the offenses when they come.You know as much as I do that you make mistakes when you're angry due to offenses because you won't be able to think well on what you want to do. Then imagine what will happen to you

• If you keep these offenses in your mind for a long time and you don't let them go, they will destroy you. Friend, unforgiveness will ruin your life because while you harbor unforgiveness in your mind, God will not accept any prayer and service you offer to Him. Even here on earth, unforgiveness will reduce your circle of influence. What will you do if you discovered that the person you refuse to forgive for certain offenses is holding the keys to your success? This is why many people fail in life. Friend, forgive instantly and move on with life.
  Your life is too precious to allow small offenses destroy it for you. Why will you make room for offenses in your mind when great opportunities are waiting to gain access. Deal with offenses as they come, its for your own good because unresolved offenses will destroy your life.
  If you truly want to succeed this year, then you must learn to forgive and quickly too, that's how you'll win. Don't allow the devil control your life through unforgiveness.
  Friend, if there is any unresolved offense in your mind right now, call the person involved and resolve the issue today for your own good

HAVE A SWEET WEEKEND....

WHAT IS YOUR OPINION ON THIS ?

The matter she brought before the Parliament is about the STRANGE BEHAVIOR of her late sister’s husband. Prior to her elder sister’s death-she was living with them.

The sister was pregnant then but it happened that she was always sleeping in their sitting room most nights and her sister’s husband made it a habit of coming to her -every night, pleading for SEX-despite the fact that she never yield...ed to his pleas. He usually goes back to his wife’s bed-after some STRUGGLE with her.

Now, her sister is dead-as a result of some complications with the pregnancy but what surprised her is that while her sister was still critically ill at the hospital, she came home to fetch ‘personal things’ one morning and found a WRITTEN GRAVE SIDE ORATION on the dining table-written by the sister’s husband- about his wife, that’s not yet dead. She also found some gallons filled with fuel and the man’s driver confided in her that Oga says the fuel would be used for an impending trip to the village-for a burial.

She is shaken and has since been asking COULD IT BE THE MAN WANTED HIS WIFE OUT OF THE WAY-for whatsoever reason?

A date is yet to be fixed for the sister’s burial-because the man has to communicate(in person) the date he has chosen to their family...she is considering telling her people the issues she mentioned above-when the man comes for the meeting with her people. She has asked the Parliament to ADVISE her on how to handle this.

YOUR ADVICE PLEASE!

He has asked the Parliament for an INTERPRETATION of what is playing out in his marriage...his wife is about 15years younger than himself. She had just left secondary school at the time he married her(having been married to a white lady before).The agreement between them was that she would go back to school after she’s had their babies and to the glory of God-they are blessed with 3 kids.
 Eventual...ly she went back to the university. 

On more than one occasion-stories (from family friends) have filtered to his hearing that his wife is getting unusually cozy with a few young male students-that are in the same department with her. He does not see anything out of the ordinary-if she has to have a rapport with her fellow students in the course of her studies
. 
A few months back...she implored that their VACANT boys quarters be used to accommodate a few of her fellow (Males) students that were having accommodation problems-since their house is very close to the university. He has asked the parliament to look into the matter and ADVISE him and also tell him if ‘helping’ the so called male students with accommodation (as his wife pleaded) is proper-in view of the stories that are flying around, concerning his woman’s coziness with her fellow (male)students. 
But at the same time, he does not want to hurt her feelings or allow himself to become unnecessarily suspicious of a woman that has been a good wife to him.

HOW SHOULD SHE HANDLE THIS?

The matter she brought before the Parliament today is on behalf of her friend…The couple has been married for about TEN YEARS-without a child. After trying (for a baby) in all these years, she adopted a child with her husband’s consent. Now, the husband seems disinterested in the baby. He does not show the child any form of affection. Two years ago, the man had an affair that produced a baby. He hoped that she would agree to raise the baby (that he had with another woman) but she refused. What worries her is his indifference to their baby (the child they adopted).

BEST 6 SIGNS SHE IS NOT INTO YOU...AND IS A SEDUCTRESS!

They are otherwise also known as seductress/cock teasers!

Part of my job is to let a man know what he needs to do in order to attract the woman he wants,and also to inform him of when he is wasting his time  on a woman that is not into him...
Therefore i am going to show you signs that she is a cock teaser.

Who is a seductress? : A woman who acts in a sexual manner with the intention of seducing a man,but without actually fulfilling the expected sexual actions. She flirt's with you but have no intentions of being with you.If you learn these signs it will save you time,headache,heartache,and energy.

Best 6 signs that she is a seductress : 

1. She never talks about her personal statures - She's being vague for a reason
2. She keeps the coversation constricted to things going on in the moment- Obviously not interested in sharing any moment beyond this point
3. She never makes direct comments on how cute/attractive you are- She's not sincerely attracted,she's just entertaining herself
4. She lets a pal pull her away - Give it up.. This was a mere flirtatious encounter
5. She takes your number instead of giving you hers - She doesn't want you calling her,and has no intentions of calling you
6. She's not open to being touched - She pulls away when you make attempts at any physical contact

Do you agree?

10 WAYS TO WRECK A FIRST DATE...

A first date is one of the most important,for very obvious reasons.The better you do on the first date the more likelihood of a  would be second and third date...yes!
Most men just keep getting it wrong, over and over on the first date.

I have been on quite a number of first dates, and many of them got screwed up. It seems funny when i talk about it to my friends,but while the drama was unfolding.it did not seem funny at all. So in the interest of reducing future dismal dates, i have made a list of things not to do on your first date and please...
Do not : 

1. Appear to be nervous : Its normal to be considerate on a first date,its recommended. BUT don't try so hard that you end up sweating,and don't forget that you are the host and your date will be happy to follow your lead.No need to be insecure-after all didn't she agree to go out with you?
2. Choose a bad restaurant or venue : Oh Boy! Make sure the place you take your date isn't noisy,dirty,or miles away in heavy traffic. Keep it simple.Usually most women of any age would be happy at a small italian place for a first date. The important thing is that you are able to converse without much distraction.Save your favorite joint for a later time when you know each other better.
3. Appear fussy while interacting with servers : Just order the food and move on! Don't  interview the server. Don't send anything back unless it has a rat in it,and a live one at that. he he he 
4.  Brag about your accomplishments : If a woman likes you trust me she likes you for who you are.You don't need to make flimsy connections between yourself and one celebrity somewhere...loll..Talk instead about what you enjoy doing,what you've done recently that's slightly out of the ordinary.
5. Forget to ask questions : Your date is a person too. Don't forget that! even though she is a female,she has a brain very much like yours and a heart, and a soul, too.Give her a chance to tell you about herself. Please only ask reasonable questions.
6. Speak bad of past dates,girlfriends,or wives : It doesn't matter how unpleasant your ex was,your current date doesn't want to know about it.She'll instantly put herself in your ex';s shoes and feel some female solidarity. 
7. Look at other women : If a hot lady walks by,you aren't expected to ignore her per say (although you can choose not to look) but your expression when you finally return your gaze to your date should be of bemusement,not unfettered lust!
8. Ash her if she wants children : You might be conditioned to believe that all women want to marry- that they are desperate,in fact. But it's not true! so if you think you can score faster by talking serious relationship on a first date,think again.
9. Agree to split the payment : If you asked her out.You pay.Even if you didn't ask her out you pay. Don't let her trick you by offering to pay.
10. Not try for a kiss tonight,or more...: Yes,you should try for a kiss,or even a peck but not without her consent.You can politely ask her"May i kiss you tonight?" it might work. If she says "no" just smile and thank her for a great evening.If she says "yes" take it moment by moment.

Failure to at least try something is going to make you feel worse,that might even make her think you don't like her.So risk rejection and make a little move.She 'll appreciate it if she's into you,and if she isn't...well,you'll find out fast ! 

Put all this to action and i assure you a beautiful first date...

HOW TO KNOW IF SHE LIKES YOU OR USING YOU TO GET OVER HER EX !

For men and women, getting over an ex is tough.Its especially tough for others around us because our actions are not stable and cant be based on emotional insecurity rather than rational choices,this means that we may reach out to others to assist us in filling the new void.
I myself have done this to many men in the past....*winks* When i went through my big heartbreak i attempted to get over it quickly by trying to find a replacement rather than dealing with the break-up.
But to avoid this kind of situation you can can do 1 of these 2 things.

1. Make a rule to never date a woman who is just coming off a recent breakup.
2. Be armed and know the signs of a woman trying to get over her ex.

Below is a list of signs i outlined for you to look out for in a woman that is still not over her ex. This signs will also help you evaluate when a woman truly likes you,even if their is no ex in the picture : Thank me later

• She insist on going to places that she and her ex once visited
• She subtly compares you to her ex
• She only shows interest in her plans and never yours
• She's not making any attempt to get to know you as a person
• She hardly ever returns your calls,messages,email
• She hasnt mentioned or introduced you to anyof her friends
• She has no problem spending money,as long as its yours

The first two signs will definitely help you decide whether or not a woman is still fixated on her ex.The rest of the signs can be used as indicators to evaluate whether or not a woman is into you.
Enjoy...

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YOUR CHECKLIST TO KNOW HOW GOOD YOU ARE WITH WOMEN.....

Do you want to know how good you are with women? if yes then this is just for you... hehehe

I had a member of this blog reader write to me the other day and asked me "Beta,Can you please do a big checklist to see our level of where we are with women?" and i promised him to make one ...and here it is..

I realized that this is an essential part of the learning process.Everyone needs to know where they are currently so they can know how to move and advance to the next level. NOTE- beating a new level takes time and practise.
So i challenge you right here,right now, to move forward and settle. But never settle for anything less than your dream girl.
 OK here we go,here's how to become the kind of man girls dream about...

Checklist 1:

1. Approach any woman you want to talk to
2. Make eye contact throughout conversation with her
3. Share something good about yourself and follow up with a question about her
4. Make her smile and laugh
5. Maintain conversation and stay away from question after question or having awkward silences
6. Ask for her number
7. Spot the difference between her being nice and her being genuinely interested in you
8. Make eye contact with her after the initial meeting and schedule a time to see her again

 Checklist 2:

1. Approach every woman you want to talk to immediately after seeing/noticing her
2. Express interest to take her out and she will oblige you
3. Maintain eye contact for at least 3seconds and throughout entire conversation
4. Notice things about her that you like and tell her
5. Progress the conversation from profile topics to experiences and stories
6. Ask her open questions about her life
7. Listen without interrupting or turning the focus of conversation back on you
8. Decipher her body language in regards to how she feels within the moment and act on it based on what you know she's saying
9. Understand her signals in regards to ending the date with a hug, peck on the cheek,or a romantic kiss...and act accordingly!!
10. Get the first kiss and go for it without hesitation

Checklist 3:

1.  Date any woman you want without having to settle or compromise your own standards or boundaries
2. Know when to take action and get physical
3. Disclose intimate details of yourself regarding your hopes and fears and be open,curious,and respectful when hearing hers
4. Remain open to hearing her wants and needs of and be willing to change according to your own boundaries
5. Be forthcoming about your own negative feelings in the moment without blaming or being hurtful and make request for change based on your own wants and needs
6. Find "The One"

This final level of mastery is something  most men (even guys who ends up with kids) are never able to attain (and that's why you have high divorce rates nowadays).And the reason most men never seem to get to this point is because most guys only want a quick fix RIGHT NOW

They want to talk to that girl NOW,they want to take her out NOW, have sex with her NOW,...and then what exactly...?
Ladies find a man that is committed to himself and bettering himself...extremely sexy!
Of course my job is to help you you attain this level of mastery and be confident enough to get your dream girl knowing you got what it takes... hehehe

Remember,a man who understands women along with himself will attract and seduce any woman he wants.
Make the right choice today and become that man!