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1. Not having sex
A sexless marriage is a common bad habit that too many married couples
fall into. But the importance of sex cannot be over emphasized. Sex
serves as one of the best ways to develop and maintain intimacy, but
when you go without sex for so long you get so used to it that your mind
begins to not want it anymore.
Many issues can contribute to a sexess
marriage, like pregnancy, stress, fatigue or resentment. But here’s how
to save your marriage from this bad habit: have sex! Even if you don’t
feel like it, do it. Don’t turn down your partner unless there’s a very
good reason. Luckily, once you just do it, you’ll probably actually
enjoy yourself.
2. Spending too much time with the in-laws
Another common bad habit married couples fall into is in-law
interference with marriage. Many couples will tell you that in-law
issues can quickly become a source of frustration and resentment in the
marriage. The interference is caused by spending too much time with the
in-laws (especially at your own home), providing private information
about your marriage or spouse to them, or siding with them over your
spouse.
While a spouse can be rightfully close to his or her family,
the disloyalty will do nothing to save your marriage. First and
foremost, your loyalty lies with your marriage, and just because it’s
family doesn’t mean it’s OK to gossip or betray your spouse.
3. Not consulting your partner about purchases
Many married couples will tell you that the issue of money is the most
contentious of marital problems. Sometimes it’s the intentional refusal
to disclose where money is being spent, and sometimes it’s just a bad
habit of not being on the same page with monetary purchases or goals.
The fact remains that marriage is a partnership in every sense of the
word, and developing a bad money habit will not only cause anger and
resentment, but it can also compromise your financial security. This is
one habit not worth picking up.
4. Forgetting the smaller gestures
Even the small ones matter when you’re breaking bad habits. Small
gestures include kissing your husband or wife when they walk through the
door, asking if there’s anything you can get them while you’re up, or
offering to do a chore you know your partner hates doing.
Married
couples tend to think that because they’ve been together for so long,
these thoughtful gestures can be forgone.But it’s these smaller
gestures which keep the intimacy alive and keeps you both feeling
emotionally connected.
5. Picking up bad habits from your partner
Here is a bad habit within a bad habit. Maybe you’ve started drinking
as much as your husband as an excuse to spend more time together, or
maybe your wife started letting herself go, and as a result, you don’t
frequent the gym or health food aisle as much anymore. Married couples
undoubtedly pick up on each other’s bad habits because of the natural
close proximity of the relationship. One partner may also pick up on the
other’s bad habits as an excuse or as a way to get back at the other
(if you can’t beat them, join them). Develop good habits together and
practice them as a team.
It’s easier for you to save your marriage
from bad habits by nipping them in the bud as soon they develop. But if
your bad habits have been around for years, it’s still worth your while
to overcome them for the sake of a happy marriage...Dr.Aramunde
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